I'm an ENFP who is having problems with my ENTJ boyfriend, so I Here goes: I' ve been in a relationship with my ENTJ boyfriend for 4,5 years. Even though these two personality types have lots of differences, the ENTJ – ENFP match is in theory close to ideal. In this article I will try to explain why. And according to MBTI, ENFP along with INFP are supposed to be "marriage material" for ENTJ. This intrigues me. How can someone on Earth.
Extroversion-Extroversion Joys Because both parties enjoy people, they are likely to go for many socializing activities and parties together. Because of their love for people and socializing, they are likely to have a large network around them, supporting and mediating for the couple in time of need. Struggles Because both love to speak, not so much listenthey may try to compete for air time when conversing with one another. So instead of listening, they may out talk each other in order to be heard.
Hence, they may not feel fulfilled, especially if one party is always doing the talking and the other doing the listening.
ENFP Relationships, Love, & Compatibility
One party may turn to outside friends to fill that desire to speak and be heard, and in bad cases, it may lead to extra-marital affair. Intuition-Intuition Joys Because both parties enjoy discussing big ideas, possibilities and global issues, they will usually find a certain attraction to each other. This is especially if they have similar viewpoints on certain issues, they will find chemistry with each other. Both tend to enjoy each other's uniqueness, not just in viewpoints but also in fashion, tastes and so on.
Because both parties enjoy talking about the future, their conversations will more often revolve around future hopes and dreams and exciting possibilities. Struggles However, they may lack interest in everyday living, hence if they are a married couple, household duties may tend to be neglected.
Even if they attempt to take care of household, they may still miss important details in its maintenance. The partner that has to be constantly responsible for the everyday maintenance may feel resentment or unfulfilled.
A good balance can be achieved with proper delegation of duties or with the hiring of a domestic helper. Thinking-Feeling Joys Thinker will be attracted to the Feeler's compassion and warmth toward Thinker and others, which Thinker may find lacking in self.
Feeler is attracted to the objective, tough-minded Thinker who can take and give criticism without taking offense. The Thinker-Feeler partnership will provide all rounded perspectives, considering people, values and logical consequences when making important decisions. They have excellent interpersonal skills, and are able to inspire and motivate others to be the best that they can be.
Energetic and effervescent, the ENFP is sometimes smothering in their enthusiasm, but are generally highly valued for their genuine warmth and high ideals. Good communication skills Very perceptive about people's thought and motives Motivational, inspirational; bring out the best in others Warmly affectionate and affirming Fun to be with - lively sense of humor, dramatic, energetic, optimistic Strive for "win-win" situations Driven to meet other's needs Usually loyal and dedicated Most ENFPs will exhibit the following weaknesses with regards to relationship issues: Tendency to be smothering Their enthusiasm may lead them to be unrealistic Uninterested in dealing with "mundane" matters such as cleaning, paying bills, etc.
Hold onto bad relationships long after they've turned bad Extreme dislike of conflict Don't pay attention to their own needs Constant quest for the perfect relationship may make them change relationships frequently May become bored easily Have difficulty scolding or punishing others ENFPs as Lovers "To love means to open ourselves to the negative as well as the positive - to grief, sorrow, and disappointment as well as to joy, fulfillment, and an intensity of consciousness we did not know was possible before.
ENFP + ENTJ relationships, compatibility, dating
They are enthusiastic, idealistic, focused on other people's feelings, and very flexible. These attributes combine to make them especially interested in positive personal relationships, and also makes them very able to promote strong relationships in fun and creative ways.
ENFPs take their commitments very seriously, and are generally deeply loyal and faithful to their partners. There are a couple of difficult relationship areas for the ENFP. The first problem is that many ENFPs have a problem leaving bad relationships. They tend to internalize any problems and take them on their own shoulders, believing that the success or failure of the relationship is their own responsibility.
As perfectionists, they don't like to admit defeat, and will stick with bad situations long after they should have left. When they do leave the relationship, they will believe that the failure was their fault, and that there was surely something they could have done to save the relationship.
- ENFP Weaknesses
On the entirely other end of the spectrum, many ENFPs have a difficult time staying focused and following things through to completion. If they have not focused on their ability to follow through, they may have problems staying in dedicated, monogamous relationships.
They are so in tune with all of the exciting possibilities of what could be, that they will always fantasize about a greener pasture out there somewhere.
If they are not paired with a partner who enjoys new experiences, or who shares their idealistic enthusiasm, the ENFP may become bored. The ENFP who is bored and who is not focused will be very unhappy, and will eventually "leave" the relationship if the problem is not addressed. Since relationships are central to the ENFP's life, they will be very "hands on" and involved with their intimate relationships. They may be in the habit of constantly asking their partner how they're doing, what they're feeling, etc.
This behavior may be a bit smothering, but it also supports a strong awareness of the health or illness of the relationship.
ENFP and ENTJ – Compatibility, Relationships, and Friendships
Their rich fantasy world makes them fun and creative lovers, who usually have new ideas up their sleeves. They whole-heartedly embrace the opportunity for closeness with their mates, believing sexual intimacy to be a positive, fun way to express how much you love each other.
The ENFP needs to be given positive assurance and affirmation. More than one ENFP has been known to "go fishing" for compliments.
ENFP Relationships, Love, & Compatibility
They like to hear from their significant others that they are loved and valued, and are willing and eager to return the favor. They enjoy lavishing love and affection on their mates, and are creative and energetic in their efforts to please. The ENFP gets a lot of their personal satisfaction from observing the happiness of others, and so is generally determined to please and serve their partners.
A problem area for ENFPs in relationships is their dislike of conflict and sensitivity to criticism. They are perfectionists who believe that any form of criticism is a stab at their character, which is very difficult for them to take. Conflict situations are sources of extreme stress to the ENFP. They have a tendency to brush issues under the rug rather than confront them head-on, if there is likely to be a conflict.
They are also prone to "give in" easily in conflict situations, just to end the conflict. They might agree to something which goes against their values just to end the uncomfortable situation. In such cases, the problem is extended and will return at a later time. The ENFP needs to realize that conflict situations are not the end of the world.