Enneagram Types in Relationship: Four with a Five
You may have heard about Enneagram personality types, but if not, I'm happy (#3), The Romantic (#4), The Observer (#5), The Questioner (#6), The types and the kind of partner your primary type needs in a relationship. If you think of the relationship of Harry Potter and Severus Snape you would . Filed Under: Culture, Type 4: The Nonconformist, Type 5: The. I get intrigued by the brains of Fives, but as many has said before - any type can be in a relationship. Maybe a 4w5 and a 5w4 would be great.
The 4 will usually seek them out first, which the 5 may secretly be grateful for. Unhealthy 4's have a "push-pull" pattern, especially 4w5s, but since 5's are usually so distant, the 4 will usually stay with the "push" role, and the 5 the "pull. However, average-to-unhealthy 4s tend to see themselves as flawed, so when someone takes an active interest in them, they become intimidated and pull away.
They want to be the one who gives more; to lose themselves in feeling. But as frustration types, 4's are never satisfied.
Misidentifying 4 and 5 — The Enneagram Institute
None of their real relationships are as satisfying as the ones they have in their daydreams, and 4's ultimately realize that they are more attracted to the longing than the other person. But 4's grow by realizing that although someone perfect may not exist, someone accepting and willing to give them the space they need may.
The Theorist This Enneagram type loves to understand the world around them. They tend to be more introverted, but they are some who are not—depending on that wing type Four or Six. Theorists also have issues with emotion and can repress a lot of feelings, until they are alone to sort it all out.
In fact, Fives tend to think about the person they love so much, that some have been known to have obsessions regarding a particular person they fancy. So, why are Fives seen paired up with the Four type of the Enneagram? Need for Attention Meets Need to Understand the Human Condition This is my take on it, but I think why these types often pair is because opposites attract.
Not only that but because their wings are on both sides of this type. Both types can be introverted for the most part, they fall in line with more intellectual conversations. Remember, Fives love knowledge.
So add a 4w5 wing, and you can see both discovering something unique and fun about the other. Fours help Fives stay in contact with their personal self and feelings.
They have a mutual tolerance for whatever the other comes up with and neither is easily shocked. They generally find each other stimulating and are tolerant of each other's idiosyncrasies. Both inspire creativity in the other and give permission to the other to be themselves and follow their own inspirations.
Fours can experience Fives as being too intellectual and feel that Fives are analyzing them rather than sympathizing with their emotional needs and states.
Enneagram Relationships: The Nonconformist and Theorist
They can also feel that Fives are unavailable and detached, uncaring and unresponsive to their needs in their relationship. Fours feel they can also be impractical and take too long to respond when a situation calls for action.Enneagram Type 4 (Enneagram 4w5/ Enneagram 4w3) - Integration to a 1
On the other hand, Fives can see Fours as bottomless pits of emotional needs who drain their time and energy.