For Survival: Understanding Mind Games Men Play in Relationships
Whether it's a work or love relationship, many people subconsciously play games , and some of these games are malicious in their nature. Be aware of these 7. Whether habit or as a means to an end, playing games seldom furthers a relationship. Playing head games often cause ill feelings once the. Here are seven mind games guys play and how to deal. That guy may never open up to the idea of a relationship, and you don't want to end up heartbroken.
MenWit Staff Last Updated: Feb 26, Some girls like to say one thing and mean another. And me being who I am, I'm very straightforward. Everything is very black and white for me. I don't really like playing mind games.
They not only manipulate you but also exploit you for their own interest. If you analyze their behavior, you will be able to tell when they are indulging in these scheming mind games. Women go even a step further to defeat men while playing mind games. Many women play mind games because they want to exercise a sense of control in their relationship.
Most of the time, such mind games will affect your relationship adversely. You will be able to cope with these mind games played by your girlfriend in a better way, if you have the knack of identifying them.
This MenWit article intends to help you in understanding the mind games that women play so that you can plan a foolproof strategy to deal with them. The 'Waiting' Game So, you have finally called her, and she is taking a lifetime to pick up your call. You try to reach her on her cell phone repeatedly, but to no avail.
Or you may be waiting for her to pick her up for a date, and she keeps you waiting for hours at a stretch. She does this because she wants you to keep guessing if she is really interested in you. She loves to play the cat and mouse game with you. Observe that after she keeps you waiting, you will start chasing her even more than earlier. Manipulation She keeps you waiting because she knows you are dying to be with her.
Surviving the Game First of all, if she is doing this with you, stop chasing her as if she is the last girl on the planet. Don't call her if she is not picking your calls.
Wait for her to give you a call back. Don't make her feel that she is the only person who is important to you. The 'Sexy Clothes' Game You are out on your date, and she purposely comes wearing a stunning outfit which enhances all her curves.
This has you ogling at her body. She notices this, gets angry because of it, and says that you are only interested in her body, not her soul.
While her intention of wearing such a revealing outfit was to grab all your attention, she reprimands you for acting out of your natural instinct. Manipulation She actually wants you to notice her sexy curvaceous body and enjoys seeing you ogling at her.
Surviving the Game Can't you see that she has gone to great lengths in wearing an outfit which is bringing out her curves? And she knows exactly how to attract you.
Try to ignore her, and do not allow your jaw to drop when you lay your eyes on her. Turn the tables on her by not giving her any kind of attention, and then watch all the fun. The 'No Sex' Game So, being a hot-blooded male, you expect to get physically intimate with your girlfriend. However, there comes a time when she expects you to give her something in return for sex. This can be an emotional condition, like not going to work, not meeting friends, not watching baseball, or calling a close friend, etc.
It can also be a materialistic condition, like taking her out for shopping, ordering something for her on the Internet, or taking her out to the most happening club, etc.
And as usual, you have to comply with everything she tells you only because otherwise it will directly result in a 'no sex' relationship. Well, if she is using sex as a ruse to have her way, it is high time that you stop letting yourself get manipulated at her hands.
Manipulation She manipulates you in this way because she knows that you are desperate to get intimate with her and will give anything in return for it. Surviving the Game Please don't become a toy in her hands only to get physically intimate with her.
Have some self-respect; don't just yield to her wants. Tell her that sex is a mutual decision, and you will wait till she is willing and ready for it. Also, tell her that you are really too busy to run errands for her, or you do not have budget at the moment to spend on her. This will just ruin her mind game. The 'Handle My Mood Swings' Game So, one day while you are taking potshots at her friends, she tells you sternly that you cannot talk to her best friend that way, if you want your relationship.
The very next day she has a cat fight with her best friend and comes up with a number of expletives for her. When you keep quiet and don't say anything about her best friend, she rebukes you for not taking her side or comforting her.
Irrespective of the PMS, this will happen most of the time, when your girlfriend will conveniently switch sides according to her mood.
Manipulation She tries to exploit your good side and likes you to behave according to her mood swings. Surviving the Game Unless she tries to use your reactions to her mind games against you, playing along can be a harmless option. However, if she tries to blame you for changing your point of view from time to time, put your foot down, and explain to her that you only do this to make her happy.
The 'Playing Dumb' Game Girls often like to play dumb, because they want you to do their work. Don't you think, she owns her phone so she knows how to download the infinite number of apps on it? She only gives the task to you because she is either lazy, or she knows you will do anything for her at the drop of a hat.
Or she may know how to mow the lawn, but wants you to do it. There will be butterflies in your stomach, stolen kisses, late-night texts and talks. You may even find surprise flowers and chocolates delivered at your doorstep.
Like always, you will think that he is your 'Mr. Then you will take the relationship to the next level. This excitement will continue for a month, and after reaching the 'break-even point', he will say that he wants to take things slow. The contact may become lesser and lesser, until one day, when there will be nothing left with you but memories.
He will try to portray that everything is perfect, and you mean a lot to him, only to leave you for someone else.
And you will keep wondering what exactly went wrong. The Mills and Boon kind of romance only happens in Mills and Boon. Getting attached too soon will not be good for you at all. So, take some time to think if this relationship is merely an attraction or true love, before your're heartbroken. The 'Convenience' Game So, you and your boyfriend have a strange relationship. He breaks your heart and walks away, only to appear after a few days and apologize for his behavior. Guess what, history repeats itself, and he leaves once again.
Every time he comes back into your life, he has his own reasons. Sometimes, its work, sometimes, his friends keep him busy, and then there are always some duties that he is expected to do at home. He may even give you lame reasons that his great-great-grandmother expired, and he needed to be by his great-great-grandpa's side. That is why he didn't show up for six months. The reasons keep on getting bizarre, so much so, that you wonder if he owns an encyclopedia on excuses.
For Survival: Understanding Mind Games Men Play in Relationships
This continues for some time, before you realize that you are being taken for a ride. He treats you as a matter of convenience. Whenever he wants, he comes into your life, and leaves you as he pleases. Are you really that naive? He is giving you all kinds of lame reasons, and you are buying them! Understand that you have to leave him, just as he left you twice. Simply find someone else; there are plenty of fish in the ocean.
The 'No Sex' Game So, the guy who could not keep his hands off you is showing no interest in getting intimate lately. I know how worried you must be because of this.
You must be killing yourself with thoughts like, 'has he found someone else?
However, you need to understand that he does this, so that you will start doubting your capacity in the art of lovemaking. You will be forced to confront him, and this is all that he wants you to do. He does this so that he can 'tell' you what he expects from you during physical intimacy, without sounding too demanding. There is no problem in asking him what he expects from you.
However, don't get into a physical act which you may not be comfortable with, just because it pleases him. The 'Comparison' Game This is perhaps the worst game ever, because it will hurt your self-esteem.
If your boyfriend is comparing you with any other girl, it will affect you terribly. It will only add insult to injury, if that girl is someone close to you, like your best friend or sister.
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He will tell you to go to the gym just like her, become smart like she is, how attractive she is, etc. He is probably well aware that this will cause feelings of jealousy and anger in you. Even then, he will continue to compare your looks, figure, fitness, style, etc. By making you question everything about your appearance and existence, he tries to bring your self-esteem down.
First of all, don't see his criticism in negative light. Maybe he really does want you to improve. However, tell him that you will accept constructive criticism, but you cannot stand comparison, as you take immense pride in your individuality. However, if he is being unreasonable, tell him that you cannot change any further. Try not to say anything negative to him in a fit of anger, as he may use it against you in a future argument.
The 'No Compliment' Game You went to a salon and got all decked up specially for him, since you wanted to look beautiful for him. The whole evening passed by, and he didn't even pay you a single compliment.
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You are waiting to hear simple words of praise from him. He talks about everything else under the sun, but fails to notice your stunning looks. Your anger is reaching its boiling point, as you wait for him to give you a small compliment. You even indulge in some compliment-fishing by stroking your hair or batting your eyelashes, but to no avail. He drops you back at your place, and leaves without saying a single word about how stunning you looked that evening.
He is purposely not paying a compliment, even though he knows that it is all that you want to hear from him. Try not to overreact, because he may have done this to test your patience. If you throw a tantrum, it will convince him that you are a difficult person to get along with. The next time you meet him, ask him if he noticed you the other day.
However, don't say it angrily, rather, put it across subtly. The 'Ignorance' Game You wait for his call or message, but it is as if he has vanished into thin air. You see that he is active on Facebook, but still not replying to your messages. You try to call him, but he doesn't answer your calls. You keep on wondering if you did something wrong to hurt him on the last date.